Free Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

Can you spot free signs of a cheating spouse and how to track a cheating spouse? And what are the types of fidelity?

There are many kinds of adulterer’s or cheating spouse. People cheat for so many different reasons. People who never thought that they would cheat can get caught up in an affair and justify it pretty easily. Today’s climate is open minded and accepting. With mantra’s like "I want it all now, "It is all about me, "the 40’s are the new 20’s", "sex in the city" and all the other self-absorbed but accepted perceptions of entitlement one does not need to look far to justify their deviant behavior, no matter how justifiable it seems. The opportunities to have an affair are just endless.

So how to track a cheating spouse or spot signs of a cheating spouse day to day?  Having said this, there remains some general categories of cheater’s:

Work Flings: Work affairs usually start out with flirting and a high level of sexual tension. The couple enjoys the thrill of flirting with each other. Once they realize they can “get away” with this, they soon start to enjoy the sneaking around. It is convenient, and there are plenty of excuses the cheater can use to slough off questions of their behavior to the spouse at home waiting. Contact with the person who your spouse is having the affair with at work is easy through work email, travel and day to day chats without having to worry about the spouse finding out the affair. Most feel secure in believing no one at work would tell the spouse and the majority of times this is true, sadly.

The catch: Ironically, one only needs to go with their spouse to a work related function or two to find out about your spouses extra affair. Search out who might tell you if something is going on; talk to the drunk (especially), the drunk’s wife, watch your spouse’s behavior around people. Is there someone who s/he speaks with teasingly? Is there someone who s/he doesn’t seem to have a problem invading their personal space? Is there someone who seems particularly upset about your presence? Do others seem to be nervous talking to you about your spouse? Keep them talking…...and chances are they will let you know.

One Night Stands: One night stands should be the scariest for the significant other half. These thoughtless cheaters sleep with people that they don’t have a clue of their sexual history of. These are the people whom can bring a disease into your bedroom; a dangerous disease at that. These cheaters don’t want any emotional affair. Some may justify that if the affair does not replicate a relationship then it is therefore not an affair. A notion President Clinton brought to our country. Although one will find street hookers easily accessible, there are “masseuses” who give happy endings and high end prostitutes that work the convention centers for many longing for. The internet is a huge playground for one night stands as well. It is as easy as finding a liquor store.

The Catch: One night stand cheaters are a little trickier to catch than others. Not because they are smarter, but just because they typically don’t have a pattern to their cheating. These cheaters however, do leave certain clues behind. There are great software tools to track practically anything you want on the internet. There are great GPS gadget where you can track where they go (massage parlors are common places for men)...…Then there is the hooker. Many men stop for a blow job here and there which also leaves some clues. There are many other methods to catch these cheaters; one just needs to be patient in their plan. I refer to men because they are typically in this category. However, not to say that women don’t have one night stands; however, they typically fall into the other two categories for affairs.

Adrenaline Junkies: I like to call these types of cheaters adrenaline junkies because these cheaters are going for the excitement of the sexual affair; not necessarily the relationship. They bore easily of relationships and look for their next sexual victim; all along enjoying the "security" of their spouse and family members at home. Many times these people have had or currently have addictions in other areas too. The affair often enhances their relationships at home. This may leave the spouse feeling that their spouse is "bipolar" because when they are in the affair home life is good; the breakup of the affair leads to feelings of rejection and also emptiness. When they enter a new relationship they are happy again and bring that into the marital relationship, irony. The cheating spouse will have a renewed interest in the relationship and act engaged and happy all the time. This leads to a rollercoaster of emotion that the spouse cannot tie to anything or understand.

The Catch: These cheaters typically get caught because they are unhappy in their relationship, or so they will complain often. In reality, they are actually unhappy with themselves. Typically these cheaters inadvertently leave clues. If the spouse looks hard enough, they will be able to catch them. These cheaters might ask to separate from their spouse somewhere during their relationship. Characteristically they come back because they are too scared to be on their own without a relationship. Plus much of the thrill is the cheating itself, without a spouse the thrill is all lost.

No matter what kind of cheater you are, or you have encountered, the wake of a cheater indeed leaves a devastating trail of emotions. Recovering from an affair, regardless of if the marriage survives or not, needs some tender loving healing and gentle steps to recovery. Recovery allows the victim of an affair to not remain as the victim but to come out of the situation victorious and fully recovered. This will not only assist the spouse but if there are children involved it will allow them to recover too. It is important to find victory and to recover fully well so that your life and your children’s lives can go on; based on a solid foundation.